Frank The Tank Frazier is a bail bondsman in Summit, Medina, and Cuyahoga counties. He is a bounty hunter for Sly Bail Bonds and tracks fugitives all over the United States. He works with the troubled youth of Summit County. Below he is talking from the heart to all kids young and old about making a positive change in their lives.
Actually a lot of individuals that were reaching out to me personally, basically they were telling me, you know, they feel like giving up on life. They’ve grown up in a single-parent home and they just feel like quitting. A lot of them were expressing they were getting in trouble with the law and they reached out for help and asked me for some advice.
My advice for you would use that pain as a catalyst to reach success. Don’t use growing up in a single-parent home as an excuse to fail. Be successful. Make that absent parent wish they were a part of your life. I can relate to you. I grew up in a single-parent home. My mom busted her ass to keep food on the table, keep me safe, keep a roof over my head.
One of the things that kept me out of trouble was knowing that if I got into trouble, how that will affect my mom. You got to be conscious of the decisions you make because it not only affects you. It affects your loved ones. You got to forgive and forget. You got to just let go because otherwise, it’s going to eat you up the rest of your life.
Me personally, I wonder why my father was absent in my life. Why didn’t he want to be a part of my life? I thought I was a great son. Active in sports. I was great in sports. Great student, went to college, scholarship, never been in any serious trouble. I was the token son that a father would want to have but yet, he didn’t want me.
But this is me telling you from personal experience. Don’t use pain. Don’t use the anger as an excuse, for fear as an excuse to get into trouble. Use that. Harness that and be successful. Make a wish they were part of your life. Make them look great never being a part of your life. Make them. Take any chance to study, consider undergraduate scholarships 2017 and the upcoming ones.
Learn to forgive. Forgive that man. Forgive that woman. Forgive that mother. Forgive that father who was absent in your life and finds peace because otherwise, it will eat you up. That will eat you up to your grave and you will never be a truly happy person. What’s life without happiness?
A message to my father? If you’re watching out there, wherever you are, I forgive you. I’m not mad. My phone is always, always open. If you want to call me, hey, feel free. There are no grudges here with me. But I will tell you this. You better not ever commit a crime and get out on bail and don’t go to court because if your name comes across my desk – I’m going to leave it on that one.